The stories we tell ourselves

 The experiences you have had and the beliefs you hold affect how you operate in the world, how you show up, and the way you view the world. This can end up as the stories you tell yourself which in turn can affect the choices you make, the people you hang around with, the meaning you give to your life.  You may tell yourself you are not good enough or you don't deserve love. What is your story? You may like to answer these questions to explore this more.

 The experiences you have had in relationships and the beliefs you hold about them can affect how you operate in the world, and how you show up in your relationships.  For example, is trust an issue for you? Do you feel anxious in your relationships that you might be left, or that you don't deserve to be loved unconditionally; that if people really knew you they wouldn't want to be with you, or that relationships are to be avoided. How are you impacted by the stories you tell yourself about relationships? 

Grief comes with loss. Loss doesn’t just have to be the passing of someone, there can also be loss of relationships, family, culture, friends, opportunities, our jobs, a loss of connection. We can also grieve the person we once were and letting go of our old selves can be confronting, confusing and sad.  As you look back at your own life and experiences explore the following questions.

Self confidence is having the belief in yourself that you can accomplish things. 

It is believing you can make the right choices for you, your health and your life.

Having confidence in who you are helps you to be mentally stronger.

People who believe in themselves tend to have less sickness and better mental health. How confident are you?  Do you believe in yourself? Find out more.

What makes your life feel important to you? What gives your life meaning and what do you to be remembered for? These are big questions and it is often hard to know where to start.  Yet purpose in life is important to our mental health, wellbeing and overall quality of life.  We know that if we have purpose in our life we are less likely to have illness, be depressed and are more motivated to get out of bed every day.  If you are stuck you might like to start here.

Body image is what you think, feel and how you picture your body.  How you think you look and how you think society, friends and families think you look can impact on your mental health. Social media, media, comments from others and just looking at images of models can affect negative feelings in as little as two minutes. Two thirds of people are dissatisfied with the way their bodies look, and frequently feel guilty about eating. What story do you tell yourself about your body?